My husband and I have been married for over 2 years now and for a year and half of that we have been trying to get pregnant. Before Christmas we found out we were pregnant with our first child. One week later we lost that baby. This post is not intended to be a pity party. So please, no one cry for me… I do enough of it myself. But I hope it is a wake-up call.
On Facebook it seems like a daily onslaught of someone else being pregnant; a friend, a colleague, that girl that was the high school bully. Gag me. All of it makes me want to gouge my eyes out with a spoon and go off the grid for 2 years.
Seriously though I want to be happy for all of you. And up until a few weeks ago, I was.
When my friends told me they were pregnant I was thrilled for them. But at the same time it hurt. I hate to rain on their parade but it does. No matter how happy you are for them there is a part of it that hurts for someone that has had trouble getting pregnant.
3 of my closest girlfriends either had their second baby or are pregnant with their second. All we have are two fur babies. One of which likes to bite the UPS man and the other likes to tear anything he leaves into 1 inch by 1 inch pieces. Sometimes I wonder how we ever got so lucky.
When you post daily about your latest sonogram, the sex of your baby, how your pants do not fit anymore, those of us that are trying like crazy to get pregnant loose a little piece of their soul. Do you know what I would give to have my pants not fit because I’m pregnant? Instead my pants don’t fit because I am eating my way through the grocery store’s candy isle each month we have a negative pregnancy test.
The constant onslaught of pregnancy related posts is getting way too extreme. It is everywhere I look on here and it feels like it is a competition for everyone. When really I just want 5 minutes out of my day where I am not thinking about it constantly. Wondering why it just will not happen for us.
I do not mind seeing those nursery pictures or the growing baby belly or your newborn once a week or less often. But when I see it daily it breaks my heart and makes me want to block you from my newsfeed. Lucky you, you tried for 3 months and got pregnant. Must be nice. I am sorry but I do not want it thrown in my face daily. So do not be offended if I do not like everything or comment on it. Hell, be happy if I don’t immediately scroll past it.
Have you ever noticed the girlfriend you know that had trouble does not post a whole lot? Most of my friends that were in a similar position as us have just posted an announcement and then post some pregnancy related things occasionally. There is a reason…. Because they have been here. Watching everyone else get that bundle of joy and sitting on the sidelines with nothing but more fertility drugs and tests.
I really do want to see how adorable your baby is. Or when you find out the sex of your baby. I do not want to see 18 million maternity pictures, every detail of your nursery or how much you hate your fat feet. I know social media makes it so easy to share your entire life, but please, take it easy because not every one is as lucky as you are.